She said: I would rather use a cane and be safe than lose my balance and fall flat on my face.
I said: Me, too.
She said: My daughter drives me to my appointments now.
I said: I just arranged for a driving service. My children all work.
She said: My daughter works, too, but we arrange my appointments around her schedule so she can drive me. (Said with a smug, self-satisfied look)
I said: That’s nice. My daughter used to drive me, but she has 3 teenaged children besides her job.
She said: Don’t you have any friends? (With a pitying look sent in my direction)
I said: I have one friend, but her husband has cancer and she has her plate full right now.
And that’s when I started dipping into my very own pity pot! I don’t have friends here that I feel close enough to that I would ask them for rides, which is why I hired a driving service. When I lived in Minnesota, I had no children nearby, but I had a lot of friends, and we took care of driving each other to appointments, when necessary. We loved each other, supported each other, and shared bits and pieces of our lives, along with recipes and patterns. We went out to eat together. We worked on projects together. We laughed together and sometimes we wept together. It takes many years to build those kinds of friendships. I miss my friends! Rather than begin to weep when I thought about how alone I was feeling, I pulled out my knitting and began to do some mindless knitting on a diagonal knit dishcloth.
Supplies needed: Worsted-weight cotton yarn and size 8 needles (I prefer a circular needle)
Cast on 3 stitches.
Row 1: Knit 3 stitches
Row 2: Knit 2 stitches, yarn over, knit remaining stitch.
Row 3: Knit 2 stitches, yarn over, knit to end of row.
Rows 4 – 44: Repeat row 3.
Row 45: Knit one stitch, Knit 2 stitches together, yarn over, knit 2 stitches together, knit to end of row.
Repeat that row, decreasing 2 stitches each row and increasing one until 4 stitches remain. Knit 2 together, knit to end of row. Three stitches remaining. Bind off, leaving a short tail to weave into the cloth. Weave in end from casting on, and you’re done! The yarn over creates a “lace” pattern on the edges of the cloth.
Not all things go up in price. I got a coupon for an oil change from my Chrysler dealer, for $12.95, including a multi-point inspection! So this afternoon I will head to the dealership with my knitting bag in hand, for my appointment to take advantage of the bargain. While I knit mindlessly, I will have time to think of my friends real-time and online, and send loving thoughts of appreciation for their friendship. And I will count my own blessings. Among them will be the fact that the lady who was so eager to make me feel what is lacking in my life is not counted among my friends! As one of my old friends once said… with friends like that, who needs enemies? And I will give thanks for my NEW friend and driver, Jan... thank goodness they have services like this. I'm thinking it would take me a long time to walk to my appointments, even with my cane!